There’s nothing easy about losing a loved one. You may seem to feel a sense of loneliness, lose track of your typical routine, or simply not enjoy certain activities anymore. The idea of staying at home cuddled up in a blanket with a good movie sounds so much easier than those plans you made with friends. It might seem like a better idea to shut out the world, but there’s a lack of healing in this lifestyle. There’s nothing easy about this feeling. It’s not that easy to force yourself to go to that get together or even to the coffee shop down the street. How can we continue to engage in things that fulfill us, even when we don’t feel like we can? How can we reconnect to life in steps that don’t tire us?
Here are a few things to consider:
Explore and identify the right options to slowly reconnect with your everyday life. This could be calling a friend for a few minutes, grabbing a cup of coffee with someone for an hour, or going out to lunch or a movie for a few hours. No feat is too small when it comes to healing; take it at your own pace.
Validate your feelings. It’s okay to go through emotions like this. Don’t beat yourself up for spending an afternoon in bed. Know your limits, but also don’t be ashamed. Grieving is a normal process after a loss and it’s different for everyone.
Don’t be afraid to reach out. Your friends and family ultimately want the best for you. Never feel as if you’re bothering them or that you are not doing enough. Make new connections with old friends. Reach out.
It’s important to know that the grieving process will be difficult at times. After validating your emotions, you can better understand the steps necessary and comfortable to reconnect in life. Make a plan and don’t make up excuses.